When you are going through a divorce, you need to figure out how to work with your co-parent to make sure that you are taking care of the kids. The two of you had kids together and raised them for a number of years. And now you are trying to move things around and give the kids the best possible, even with the changing landscape of no longer being together. The best thing you can do through this whole process is to have open communication with one another.
Effective communication at all times with your co-parent during a divorce, even when the divorce is contentious, will require patience and empathy. Having your focus on the well-being of your children, rather than on how to hurt one another, can make a difference. Always make sure that conversations between you and the co-parent are as respectful as possible. It can be hard, but setting aside personal conflicts will help. Use different channels to help make this work better.
Active listening is also important. This allows you to understand the perspective of the other parent and hear some of their concerns, even if you do not agree on this. Avoid reacting in an impulsive manner or reacting when the other parent tries to provoke you. Consider attending some co-parenting classes if they are available in your area to help both of you get over some of the hurt and anger and be the best parents possible to your children.
Another thing to consider is establishing clear boundaries and guidelines when it comes to discussing matters that relate to your children. This is key to helping you avoid some of the unnecessary arguments along the way. If there is a time during the divorce where face to face communication just is not working for the two of you, you may want to rely on text, email, or other forms of written communication. Decide how to discuss things and that the kids always come first and things can go better.
One of the most difficult things to work through when there is a divorce is how to take care of the kids and split up custody. If you are worried about how well you and your ex-spouse will be able to handle the kids, then you need a dad’s rights lawyer to be by your side. Our team will be able to talk over some of your options with you, determining the best course of action and ensuring that the best interests of the kids are at the center of it all. Trust our team to help you out during your divorce.
